Do you sometimes feel like you’re at war with yourself?
Do you feel like parts of you are pulling in different directions leaving you unsure of how to move forward?
Do things seem contradictory or unclear? And does this uncertainty leave you feeling stuck, confused, and unhappy?
As humans, we are complex creatures. It is not uncommon for us to feel many different emotions and have many different thoughts at once. When these thoughts and emotions contradict each other, the result can be overwhelm.
Thankfully, there is an approach to therapy that is gaining more attention and sheds some light on our individual internal systems. This approach allows us to better understand and treat experiences of internal conflict and create more inner harmony through counseling.
Understanding Internal Family Systems Therapy
Despite its name, “Internal Family Systems Therapy” is an effective therapy approach used in individual, one-on-one counseling. Internal Family Systems Therapy, or “IFS,” is also known as “parts integration therapy,” “parts work therapy,” and “self therapy.”
IFS is derived from the idea that each of us has many separate parts that make up our personality and inner experience. It recognizes that within each person these varying aspects operate as part of an internal system. This approach is different from therapies that do not acknowledge this dynamic nature and normal multiplicity of the human mind and personality.
IFS focuses on embracing and learning to appreciate our individual parts. While some therapeutic approaches choose to only focus on our positive aspects and how we can overcome the less-desirable pieces of our personalities, IFS teaches that every part of us has a place and that these parts can all work together for the common good.
Using IFS to Restore Balance in Your Life
When you constantly feel at odds with yourself, you likely also feel frustrated, exhausted, angry, hopeless, or confused. When certain pieces of your personality do not mesh with the others, you may be left feeling understandably perplexed. This inner conflict can also bring low self-esteem and self-awareness.
The inner conflict we experience is often rooted in the parts of us that tend to be particularly critical and hard on us. Often these parts are trying to protect us but can be intense and at odds with other parts. Each internal system is unique, intricate and sophisticated and in IFS therapy we begin to observe and understand the concerns and needs of our parts of self. In this way, Internal Family Systems therapy seeks to remove that conflict and restore the balance.
The IFS model supports you in becoming self-lead where you are able to acknowledge the importance of each aspect within yourself and respect the relationship between parts. Rather than fighting against your competing ideals or thoughts, IFS encourages you to embrace each difference and to accept how those differences may ultimately be helpful to you in your decision-making.
Therapists who use IFS principles in their treatment encourage their clients to take control of and guide their own lives. These therapists focus on how the client describes and understands their own inner world and respect the client for their views and understanding.
The bottom line is that Internal Family Systems therapy allows you to build a healthier relationship with each part of yourself.
Ready to Regain Control?
Are you ready to find peace and discover internal contentment? If yes, I would enjoy being part of your journey.
I specialize in treating clients using Internal Family Systems therapy in the Denver, CO, area. To learn more about how IFS can help you achieve balance and regain control, please contact me.